Hi, my name is Jeremy, and I have a problem. I’m a cliche.
I get very nostalgic, and super motivated as one year is closing and another is beginning.
There’s just something about the calendar turning from one year to another that seems momentous. I realize the difference from December 31 to January 1 is the same amount of time as from May 6 to May 7, but it feels so much bigger…doesn’t it? I can’t be the only one.
So, as the year winds down I’m sure that you, like me, are contemplating some version of new years resolutions. Maybe you want to lose weight…again. Maybe you want to try to save money…again. Maybe you want to communicate better, get more sleep, invest in relationships, etc, etc, etc.
But, do you want to know the secret to being more successful in the new year?
Reflect on this previous year (and others before it) first.
I know, you think there’s no way it’s that simple, or you’re convinced you’ve done that before. But I would contend that if you are really going to be successful in the new year, you must understand what made you successful (or not) in the previous year. Why didn’t you lose as much weight as you hoped you would 365 days ago? Why isn’t your savings account more filled? Where did you go off the tracks with your plan to get more organized?
Until you know where you got lost, it’s almost impossible to confidently chart out a new course. You’ll just repeat the same behaviors as before.
So, before you make any “new years resolutions”, what if you created a list of “previous year reflections”? Things like:
- I struggled to lose weight because I ate out with coworkers for lunch too much.
- I didn’t save enough money because (see item above, or) I didn’t create and stick to my budget each month.
- I failed to generate the number of business leads I needed because I filled my “free time” with too much Netflix.
A couple of keys for this to really work. First, you have to be honest. If you can’t be honest with yourself you’re just wasting your own time. Second, you have to own it. Notice that my examples above start with the word “I”. Even though I mentioned other people, I must own my decisions and shortcomings.
When I create a list like the one above then I don’t have to have vague, ambiguous resolutions about losing weight. Instead I have specific actions plans that change behavior. For example:
- I am going to take my lunch to work at least 3 days per week in an effort to eat healthier and save money.
- I will make 3 cold-calls every workday for every hour of Netflix I watch.
The goal is pretty much the same, but it’s specific, measurable and easier to hold yourself accountable.
Take some time over the next few days and look back so you can truly look forward with intentionality.
Go get ’em!