Recently I found myself walking through PGA Superstore with a $20 gift card burning a hole in my pocket. I looked for a new golf shirt or hat before wandering over to what can only be described as the golf “accessories” or “training tools” section.
There were club weights, extensions, form grips, “breakable” shafts, etc. There were shoes to help you feel the correct weight distribution and transfer. There were devices to put on your arms so you know when to bend your elbows and when to break your wrist. It was a bit overwhelming.
There was a young man standing there wrestling with which purchase to make when an older gentleman walked by and said, “Don’t waste your time.” To which the younger man asked “What do you mean?” The wise old man said “they only sell this crap to folks who are convinced they are just one “trick” away from being a Major champion. It’s hogwash. The only thing that makes you a good golfer is learning from your mistakes until you’re hitting more good shots than you are bad ones.”
As I listened to this conversation take place I couldn’t help but think about all the Pastors I’ve met in my life. With very few exceptions they are walking around the “Pastor Superstore” looking for the next gimmick to add to their arsenal because they believe it’s the one thing they’re missing to finally becoming a good pastor or having their church grow.
Here’s the truth:
Most of the pastors I’ve met are already good pastors, but they’re still chasing the illusion that a good pastor does it better than they do.
In the world of social media you can’t help but compare your church to the churches you follow. Your sermons don’t seem quite as good as the 30 second clip from the megachurch pastor that’s been shared 11 billion times on Facebook since lunch.
And so you keep searching. You’re looking for that silver bullet. That sermon series where it will all come together. You’re convinced “if you build it they will come” so you leverage the future.
I’m all for creativity and marketing and more, but my prayer for you is that a wise old man or woman will walk up beside you at some point very soon and gently remind you that it’s all hogwash. I promise there is no gimmick that will turn you from a bad pastor into a good pastor.
So, in your pursuit to be a “good” pastor remember these 3 things:
1- God loves you no matter the size of your church.
- I know it seems like He would love you more, the more people you have, but that’s just not true. You just love you more when things are going well. God loved you before you were leading anyone. Force yourself to rest in His love for you. Find some friends that love you unconditionally as well. When you have a friend or three who love you but aren’t impressed by you, it will be easier to believe God could feel that way about you too.
2- God believes you’re the man or woman for the job.
When you had nothing to offer God called you. From the desert running from your past, or from the hillside with your sheep waiting your turn. The details aren’t as important as the truth: He didn’t have to, but He did. He has entrusted His sons and daughters into your care. Love them well. He does.
3- There is no silver bullet.
My friend Matt wrote a book several years ago to remind us that the “Hail Mary” approach to church growth rarely works. Your church or ministry is most likely going to grow one girl or one couple or two families at a time. You aren’t a failure if your Egg Drop at Easter doesn’t result in 500 salvations.
Unless God grows the church we labor in vain. Could it be that your church is growing at the rate God knows He can trust you or your team with? Instead of getting frustrated about the rate of growth down the road, what if we asked God what He’s trying to develop in us ahead of the next season of growth in our church?
I have a friend who owns a few of those golf devices I mentioned earlier. Anytime I play golf with him he arrives early to warm up on the driving range. You would swear he owns stock in the Golf Channel. He has sticks and poles and weighted putting balls and practice clubs and metronomes and more. Something interesting happens though when we get on the course. All it takes is one bad shot and he’s a mental case. Because his confidence is not in his ability but in the gimmicks and when they stop working he stops working.
Don’t be that guy. Love God. Love people. Trust God with the rest.
You’re doing better than you think you are!