Imagine that your boss calls you into his office and says, “You’ve done great work and in return we’d like to offer you a 25% pay increase beginning immediately.”
How would that make you feel? Excited? Happy?
Now imagine that you leave his office and you’re walking down the hall back to your office only to overhear a coworker talking on the phone: “yeah, they said I’m doing a great job and they are giving me a 35% raise beginning immediately.”
How would that make you feel? Upset? Angry? Insecure?
Isn’t it amazing how quickly our emotions can swing from one extreme to the other? The only variable in the scenario above was the information received about your coworker. But that didn’t really effect you, except that you let it effect you.
It has been said that
“the number #1 enemy to contentment is comparison.”
Think about that. How much more content would you be if you didn’t compare your life with someone else’s?
Your house is nice, except it’s smaller than the neighbors.
Your car runs great, except it’s older than your sisters.
Your kid’s public school is fine, except your best friends’ kids go to private school.
Your company is growing, except it’s not growing as fast as the company downstairs.
Your church is healthy, but you aren’t seeing the numbers the Pastor on Twitter is seeing.
Whenever I’ve allowed comparison to steal my contentment here’s what I do:
- Intentionally and consistently find ways to thank God (and others) for what you have. You might have to “fake it ’til you make it”. Give thanks before you feel thanks. Don’t stop. It’s amazing how my whole perspective changes when I’m focused on what God has blessed me with.
- Pray that God will bless others more. I can’t resent what God’s doing in someone else’s life when I’m asking Him to do it for them. Kill your pride by praying for others to be blessed.
Find contentment in the things you have and quit worrying about what others have.
Be content. Stop comparing.